the other person

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here's the scene: you meet someone. although the other person is partnered, there's sparks. flying everywhere.

sure it can be for certain reasons. that the other person is bored, or because you're new blood. or maybe simply, the One doesn't exist, we don't have that "perfect" partner, and chemistry just might happen. just happened. even when one of you is partnered.

chemistry, we all know how it feels. great. really great. and should we walk away from it?

but what if, the chemistry is creating a crack in someone else's commitment? what if this person wants me so bad or we have so much in common, or we have amazing connection rather than their partner? are they officially a douche bag or because they don't value commitment, because for me, a commitment to me would be so much better than what i have now.

let's, just for a half second. consider the shoes of the other person. in this case, the shoes of the other woman.

they may not be the manolo blahnik or christian louboutin fuck-me-shoes you thought they were. and walking that mile in them, the one while you're figuring out how to walk away. it's probably more difficult, and more complicated, than we ever consider it to be.

chemistry. just happen. even when one of you is already partnered, and it doesn't make them any less committed.

why they wait around to see. doesn't mean i don't hear the little voices that say,"well, maybe they've just been together so long, but she's just not that great for him.. maybe he's just with her because it's convenient. maybe there's something here he can't ignore. maybe, maybe, maybe."

i do get it why people hating on the other person. but that doesn't mean it's the right way to vent your anger or relieve your insecurities. hence, she/ he doesn't deserve your anger. the cheater does.

i've never understood the hate towards the other person either. there are 2, let me rephrase, TWO people involved in cheating and they both of their own brain.

yes, some women and men use excuses as reasons they stick around, when really they just want to hump someone who should be off-limits. they stick around because they're not strong enough to walk away from something that they think is bigger than lust.

my thoughts? if that chemistry is real, then there's no reason not to end the relationship you're in before you start the new one. there's till no excuse for being the cheater or the other person.


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