Hanging Out, Dating, Kissing, Thinking

-

What are these Indonesian guys thinking?


Things become even more complicated when you actually like someone. Jakarta is not the kind of place you casually bump into people you know. Schedules are tight, everyone is busy, the city will not stop for one person. So 'dates' entail planning in minute detail. Or even no planning at all.


Take this guy, named him "John Doe" for example. The situation is disturbing. I like him. I think he likes me. We have fun, he practises good personal hygiene, he's intelligent, interesting, and funny.


But do I ever see the damned guy? We have a virtual (non) relationship via text-messaging. I have been in a (non) relationship with John Doe for only a month. Hardly enough time to start stamping your feet and whining 'what's going on?'. But I literally don't know what to think. Do I see him so rarely because he spends all his spare time screwing his ex? Is it any of my business? Nope.


Why all the text messages? Is this the manner nowadays? Do people still sit having coffee together? Do the manual things.


I have an intuitive feeling that I am somehow not 'ideal girlfriend' material, but then I guess this leads to the real question, what do I expect from him?


Well, good point. I don't know. What do I expect? More hanging out, less dating. Dating has connotations of cafes, bars and expensive drinks and I'm too damned poor for dating. Hanging out suggests more friendship, more trust, more talking. I guess, really, when it comes down to it, I expect to know what's going on, instead of being in this bizarre paralysis of unknowing, unsure if you're being taken for a ride, gently dumped, or just... not even thought about.


Why have I become so ridiculously neurotic? I found myself reading crap for the neurotic female mind, such as the dating bible 'He's just not that into you', and scouring its pages for tell-tale signs of impending (non)relationship ending.


Are you neurotic? Tick.
Are you depressed? Not really,
Does he let you down? Well, he doesn't call when he says he's going to...
Does he call at all? Nope, more text messages.
Why not? Because he's busy.


No one is that busy! He's just not that into you! You are a LOSER! Get back in the dating pool!


Great.


I think I need to get out more.
Or oh, not to be here.
Oh, to be in fatherland.


Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Nyaman Villa: The Comfortable One

-
Image
Do you think you will ever not find your favorite place ever again? Where you always stay at one place every time you visit Bali? A place where every body knows your name? A place where you always have the same breakfast, lunch or dinner? It might be nice to a certain point where you think you need a break. I used to have one villa that keeps me coming back and forth, before I finally find Nyaman Villa. Located in Seminyak, in a secluded small road, you will never think you will find a convinced comfort with an excellent service. Entitled butler will accompany you during check in and show you everything existing in the villa. Trust me, you will fall in love at the first sight.  We were staying at a two bedrooms villa, completed with a private pool that you can jump in at anytime, a living room, a dining table with a fully equipped kitchen and a wonderful bathroom with a bathtub to sooth your tiring day of sightseeing. Oh, not to mention the ipod deck wher...
Read more

Nyaman. Itu Saja. Bukan Apa-Apa.

-
Image
Nyaman. Itu Saja. Bukan lain yang dicari.  Nyaman. Itu Saja. Bukan berlebih yang diminta.  Bahagia saya tidak sama dengan bahagiamu. Bahagia saya adalah rasa nyaman. Saat saya merasa nyaman di suatu tempat, pada suatu hal, dengan seseorang, saya akan bahagia. Nyaman itu mutlak bagi saya. Sama halnya saat kita merasa lebih nyaman saat naik taxi dibandingkan berada di dalam sebuah bis kota. Tapi, apakah nyaman itu bisa dikondisikan? If I say everything is relative, we will never end this discussion. But yeah, let's just agree to disagree.  Nyaman di tempat kerja itu hal yang penting untuk saya. Kalau rasa nyaman itu sudah hilang, sebaiknya tinggalkan. If you feel like staying but you don't feel comfortable, what for? The money? Trust me, it leads you to no where. Show some respect for yourself. Nyaman bersama teman, itu juga penting untuk saya. Why would you bother making friends with plastics if you are not one. Why would dress up to impress if you don...
Read more

I’M GETTING HITCHED: HEN PARTY AT THE MALL!!!!

-
Image
My girls were blew me away with a day I will never forget!!! I know they are very creative people, but I don’t expect them to be “TOO CREATIVE”, and they all keep saying that they are busy. At first I was a bit devastated that none of my bridesmaid was seemed planning something, but they did it behind my back. (Ladies, I type this with my middle finger). (they added me after the hen party) I wasn’t sure what was going on, but Jaqueline insisted to meet her today at the Senayan City Mall. No clue, no sign, I was just being a good friend cause she said she wanted to tell me something. We ordered drinks, starts chatting…  suddenly I saw my crazy girls Nita, Cumi, Otty, Pitong, Cinta & Lina entering the coffee shop. I was pretty shock and smell something fishy. I can tell from their eyes. (that's me smelling something fishy) Then they pull out 2 big plastic bags and start the magic.  HERE ARE THE FUN ATTIRE ...
Read more